Warning! Failure to Live Like a Millionaire Will Derail Your Retirement.

Black and white retro photo of distraught woman decrying that she and her husband, who is standing behind her, don't have millionaire lifestyles.

The takeaway: When they first hit millionaire status, the median household income of millionaires was $89,167. Their household income is less important than the habits these millionaires built to create financial independence. Here are the habits, and how failure to follow them, resulted in the complete derailment of one famous attorney’s retirement.

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Four years prior to his death at age 87, F. Lee Bailey gave a stunning interview to Andrew Goldman over at Town and Country, where he recounted:  

  • his time defending the famous, heinous, and rich and
  • his purchases of 52 private jets, 25 boats, and a fleet of luxury cars—all signaling to the world his vast wealth.

Only it wasn’t wealth he was signaling.

Wealth is what you don’t see”  Morgan Housel.

In fact, the shocking circumstances in which F. Lee Bailey found himself in his twilight years were all predictable, had one read the research of former Georgia State professor Thomas Stanley.  Stanley, along with his co-authors, wrote the blockbuster bestseller The Millionaire Next Door and, 20 years later, its anniversary edition The Next Millionaire Next Door1  The income of millionaires is almost irrelevant compared to the lifestyle they chose to create those millions.

The millionaire lifestyles:  modest

Black and white retro photo of one woman whispering to another that a man, out of view, is a millionaire living the millionaire lifestyle by driving a tin can car.

You can’t tell by that tin can he’s driving,  but he’s actually a millionaire!!

Stanley and his co-authors produced more than two decades of research, consistently showing that, contrary to the lifestyle of F. Lee Bailey, the bulk of millionaires:

  • live below their means;
  • live in decidedly middle-class neighborhoods;
  • drive moderately priced cars, like Hondas, Toyotas, or Fords;
  • have been married to the same spouse for most of their adult lives; and 
  • don’t have stratospheric household incomes, like those associated with CEOs, surgeons, or tech titans. In 2019, their median household income was $89,167 when they first hit millionaire status.  (The “median” means that 50% of millionaire household incomes were less than $89,167 and 50% were greater than $89,167.)
Retro black and white photo of a couple living the millionaire lifestyle by wanting to know if the person on the phone takes competitor coupons.

Ask them if they take competitor coupons!

In other words, millionaires are clipping coupons, shopping sales, and building up their savings.  Stanley also reports they’re investing a portion of their savings in:    

  • the stock market – (index funds anyone?); and/or
  • their own unglamorous businesses that provide services like dry cleaning, paving, and welding.

F. Lee Bailey’s swashbuckling life clearly showed no signs of clipping coupons or shopping sales.  Nor was he, apparently, building up his savings account.  After a life living large and defending the likes of O.J. Simpson, heiress Patty Hearst, and Sam Shepherd (upon whom the hit movie The Fugitive is based), he filed for bankruptcy at age 83.  

Wealth is what carries you through when the income dries up.”  

What happened?

With exceptions like can’t-be-helped medical bankruptcies, a lot of choices and habits lead to insolvency.  But a perusal of both the Millionaire Next Door and the Next Millionaire Next Door would suggest two factors loomed large for Bailey.  He apparently made the mistake of:

  • confusing income with wealth and 
  • failing to practice indifference to the toys of others.

Confusing income with wealth.

Retro black and white photo of woman preparing to slap a man who thinks he's living the millionaie lifestyle because he's confused income with wealth.

How dare you confuse income with wealth!?!

Stanley and co-authors remind us that income is the money you bring home each month from your salary, pension, social security, etc.  In contrast, wealth is what you keep after you’ve paid all your expenses. As Morgan Housel has said, “Wealth is what you don’t see.”

Had F. Lee Bailey saved some of that monster income that let him buy all those toys, he could have simply put it in low-fee index funds to build wealth. Maybe he forgot that wealth is what carries you through when the income dries up—as it almost always does.

“Why else would you buy 52 private jets?”

Failing to practice indifference to the toys of others.

Stanley and his co-authors have consistently shown that most millionaires are indifferent to the houses, cars, and “things” that others have.  He reports that if you find yourself noticing—and then wanting—those same “things” others have, you’ll find it tough sledding.

I, myself, experienced that tough sledding.  I was enamored with a $2,000 bauble someone else had, which ended up costing me $60,000, described in this forthcoming post.

Retro black and white photo of woman looking out a window upset that the neighbors just bought a new car.

RATS!  The Joneses just got a new car!

As for F. Lee Bailey, the Town and Country interview quotes him as saying he enjoyed flaunting the trappings of his success, claiming those trappings could:

  • buy happiness and
  • attract more business.

If he liked flaunting those trappings of “success,” then arguably he was comparing how his trappings measured up to those of his peers.  In the race for who had the most toys, he was in it to win it.  Why else would you buy 52 private jets?

Yet, at the end of his life, bankrupt and presumably needing the money, he was operating a business consultancy with his girlfriend in a small apartment above her hair salon.  He quipped to reporter Andrew Goldman that folks could get business advice and a haircut at the same time.

It’d be funny, if it weren’t so sad.

At some level, we’re all F. Lee Bailey

Like F. Lee Bailey, we’ve all, at some point, made less than optimal financial decisions and spent without thought for tomorrow.  Fortunately, two decades of research by Thomas Stanley and his co-authors can help us model better choices for a sustainable retirement. 

Choose well.

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1Notes:  Stanley, T.J., Danko, W.D. (1996) The Millionaire Next Door.  Atlanta, GA:  Longstreet Press.*

Stanley, T.J. and Fallaw, S.T. (2019).  The Next Millionaire Next Door:  Enduring Strategies for Building Wealth, Guilford, CT:  The Rowman & Littlefield Publishing Group, Inc.**

Other books in the millionaire series by Thomas Stanley are: 

Stanley, T.J. (2000).  The Millionaire Mind.  Kansas City, MO:  Andrews McMeel Publishing.

Stanley, T.J. (2005), Millionaire Women Next Door:  The Many Journeys of Successful American Businesswomen, Kansas City, MO:  Andrews McMeel Publishing.

Stanley, T.J. (2009) Stop Acting Rich:…and Start Living Like a Real Millionaire.  Hoboken, NJ:  John Wiley & Sons.

*The very best of the series.

** Not the best of the bunch.  Written by the co-author Sarah Fallaw, after the untimely death of lead author Thomas Stanley, who was her father, and who was killed by a drunk driver.  Thomas Stanley was a superb writer and gifted story teller.  His abilities would be hard for any author to match.  

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